英语翻译Passage ThreeIf you want to teach your children how to s

英语翻译
Passage Three
If you want to teach your children how to say sorry,you must be good at saying it yourself,especially to your own children.But how you say it can be quite tricky.
If you say to your children “I’m sorry I got angry with you,but …” what follows that “but” can render the apology ineffective:” I had a bad day” or “your noise was giving me a headache ” leaves the person who has been injured feeling that he should be apologizing for his bad behavior in expecting an apology.
Another method by which people appear to apologize without actually doing so is to say “I’m sorry you’re upset” ; this suggests that you are somehow at fault for allowing yourself to get upset by what the other person has done.
Then there is the general,all covering apology,which avoids the necessity of identifying a specific act that was particularly hurtful or insulting,and which the person who is apologizing should promise never to do again.Saying “I’m useless as a parent” does not commit a person to any specific improvement.
These pseudo-apologies are used by people who believe saying sorry shows weakness,Parents who wish to teach their children to apologize should see it as a sign of strength,and therefore not resort to these pseudo-apologies.
But even when presented with examples of genuine contrition,children still need help to become a ware of the complexities of saying sorry.A three-year-old might need help in understanding that other children feel pain just as he does,and that hitting a playmate over the head with a heavy toy requires an apology.A six-year-old might need reminding that spoiling other children’s expectations can require an apology.A 12-year-old might need to be shown that raiding the biscuit tin without asking permission is acceptable,but that borrowing a parent’s clothes without permission is not.

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如果你想教孩子如何说对不起,你必须善于在说自己,尤其是自己的孩子.但如何,你说,它可以相当微妙.
如果你说你的孩子："我很抱歉,我生气你,但… … "下面" ,但"可以使不力道歉说："我有一个糟糕的一天"或"您的杂音,让我是一个令人头痛的"叶子人已受伤的感觉,他应该道歉,他的不良行为,在期待着我们道歉.
另一种方法是由哪些人似乎没有道歉,其实这样做是说："我对不起你生气" ,这表明你是有点错,让自己得到伤心什么其他的人做.
其次是一般来说,所有涉及道歉,这样就避免了必要找出一个具体的行为,尤其是伤害或侮辱,明确哪些人是应该道歉,承诺永不再干.说："我很没用,因为父母"不承诺任何人以任何具体的改善.
这些伪道歉,是人使用的人认为,说对不起显示软弱,家长如希望教导子女道歉,要看到它作为一种标志的实力,因此,不能诉诸于这些伪歉意.
但是,即使当例子,真正悔恨 ,儿童仍然需要帮助,以成为洁具的复杂性,不要说抱歉.一项为期3年的岁可能需要帮助,但前提是,其他孩子感到疼痛只是像他那样,并创下玩伴超过头部沉重玩具要求道歉.6岁女可能需要提醒说,损坏其他孩子的期望,也可要求公开赔礼道歉.一个12岁的老人可能需要加以证明扫荡饼干田没有要求审批,是可以接受的,但借用一位家长的衣服,未经允许,是不是.