英语翻译You must have been troubled by when to say "I love you"

英语翻译
You must have been troubled by when to say "I love you" because it is one of the greatest puzzles in our life.
What if you say it first and your partner doesn’t love you back?Or if they do say it but you don’t feel they mean it?Being the first to declare your love can be nerve-racking(紧张）and risky and can leave you feeling as vulnerable as a turtle with no shell.But is the person who says it first really in a position of weakness?Doesn’t it pay to hold back,play it cool and wait until the other half has shown their hand fast?
A really good relationship should be about being fair and being equal,says psychologist Sidney Crown.“But love is seldom equal.” All relationships go through power struggles but,he says,if a love imbalance continues for years,the rot will set in.“That feeling of‘I’ve always loved you more’ may be subverted(颠覆,破坏) for a time,but it never goes away completely and it often emerges in squabbling(大声争吵).” In love,at least,the silent,withholding type is not always the most powerful."The strongest one in a relationship is often the person who feels confident enough to talk about their feelings," says educational psychologist Ingrid Collins.Psychosexual therapist Paula Hall agrees."The one with the upper hand is often the person who takes the initiative.In fact,the person who says ‘I love you’ first may also be the one who says ‘I’ m bored with you’ first.’’ Hall believes that much depends on how “I love you" is said and the motivation of the person saying it.” Is it said when they’re drunk?Is it said before their partner files off on holiday,and what it really means is ‘Please don’ t be unfaithful to me’ By saying‘I love you’,they really saying ‘Do you love me?’ Collins agrees that intention is everything.“It’s not what is said,but how it’s said.What it comes down to is the sincerity of the speaker.”

您何时一定由说"麻烦了; 我爱你" 因为它是其中一个最巨大的难题在我们的生活中.您若说它和首先您的伙伴不爱您?或者,如果他们说它,但是您不要感觉他们意味它?是宣称您的爱的第一个可以是紧张的(紧张）和危险,并且可能留下您感觉一样脆弱作为乌龟没有壳.但是在弱点的位置真正地首先它说的人?它是否不支付对阻止,玩它凉快并且不等待,直到另外一半快速地显示了他们的手?一个真正地好关系应该是关于是公平的,并且是均等,Sidney冠说心理学家.“但是爱很少是相等的”.所有关系审阅权力争夺,但是,他说,如果爱不平衡状态多年来继续,腐烂将持续.“`的那种感觉我总是爱您更多也许一度被推翻,但是它完全地从未消失,并且它在拌嘴经常涌现.”在爱,至少,沈默,扣压的类型总是不是最强有力的." 最强一个在关系经常是感到足够确信谈论他们的感觉的人," Collins说教育心理学家英格里德.精神性欲的性心理的治疗师Paula ・霍尔同意." 那个用优势经常是带头的人.实际上,说`我首先爱you的人也许也是说`我乏味与you first.'霍尔的人相信依赖于怎样“我爱you" 说和说的人的刺激它”.说他们什么时候被喝?在他们的伙伴文件之前说的它在度假,并且它真正地意味什么是`请不是不忠实的对me 通过说`我爱他们真正地说`您爱我的你',‘Collins同意意图是一切.“不是什么说,但是它怎么说.什么它下来到是报告人的真诚”.