不要google或者有道词典翻的 大概意思出来就行

不要google或者有道词典翻的 大概意思出来就行
Seek first to Understand
What is the difference between a man and a beast?Sometimes it is hard to tell,but the most important characteristic that sets man apart from all other creatures is language.Through words we can touch one another’s minds – and yet it is strange how seldom and how fleetingly our minds meet.Most of us do not learn to communicate very well.Most people don’t listen with the intention of understanding; they listen with the intention of replying.They are either speaking or preparing to speak.When each is struggling against the other to use the conversation for their own purposes,each feels frustrated by the other.Since both are struggling for the same thing,each is too tense to listen attentively to the other.If someone is to influence us,to receive our confidences or give helpful advice,we must first feel that he really understands us.We need to keep in mind that others have different experiences,different values and different ways of looking at things.They are even likely to use different words to say the same thing.We must seek first to understand the other person.Accept them from their viewpoint as we encourage them to express their ideas and feelings.If we do that,not only are our relationships likely to improve,but a lot more of what we say will get through.Seek first to understand,then maybe you will be understood.

首先争取理解他人
人跟野兽的区别是什么呢?有时候这个问题很难回答,但是把人跟其他动物区别开来的一个重要特征——语言——还是存在的.通过语言我们可以了解他人的想法,但是很奇怪,我们互相了解他人想法的次数是那么的稀少,而且每次都是那么地仓促.我们中的大多数人都没能学会与人好好的交流.许多人在听人说话的时候并没有带着理解他人的意图,只是想回复而已.们要么说话要么准备说话.当每个人都用会话来对抗另一方以达到自己的目的,每个人都会被对方弄的精疲力尽.因为双方都是为了同样的事情而挣扎着,每个人在倾听他人时都太过于紧张以致于不能细心倾听.如果有人想要影响我们,想要得到我们的信任或是想给我们提点建议的话,我们首先得感觉到他是理解我们的.我们应该记住一个事实,那就是其他人有不同的经历,不同的价值观和看待事物的不同方法.描述同一件事物,他们甚至可能会用不同的词汇.我们必须首先争取理解他人.当我们鼓励他人表达他们的想法和感觉时,我们得从他们的观点出发来接受他们 .如果我们这样做,不仅可能会让我们之间的关系更加紧密,我们的想法也将被更好的理解.首先争取理解他人,也许继而你也会被他人所理解.